Wednesday 26 June 2019

The Mysterious Loved One



I created the work of art you see above as a way of memorializing an amazing experience of mine.​

I once had an amazing wife, deeply loving, ravishingly beautiful, potently erotic, deeply satisfying.

But we had no child.

I wanted a child very badly. A little one of my own to love, to experience the fulfillment of their  soft body as I held their diminutive form against mine, watch the filling of gaps in their  teeth as they  grew,  stretching out to vigorous teenage years and adulthood, the ascendance of their  life force as mine reached its zenith and dwindled, the rejuvenation of life across time.

It was also an abomination not to have a child where I come from. Someone to carry on the lineage.

My wife and I tried every medical and herbal approach we could. Yet no success in decades of effort.

One day, as I sat at a bar relaxing with friends, one of them suggested my wife and I should see a traditional spiritual specialist, in this case a dibia, a specialist in Igbo spirituality in  Port Harcourt,  Nigeria, where I lived.

What did I have to lose?

My wife and I had tried everything.

We both went to see the dibia recommended by my friend.

The dibia  consulted his divination instruments and gave us a date to return.

A week after he called me on the phone, asking me to come over. I told him my wife was busy at work and could not come with me. He urged me to come anyway.

On arrival, he bade me sit.

After I had settled down, he told me the most awful thing anyone could say. 

He told me my wife and I could not have children because she was a snake.

"Nonsense!", I shouted. "Such bullshit is why I avoid people like you!".  "Nonsense!" I screamed.

He watched me calmly. 

"You need to see for yourself", he said.  "Take this colorless powder and place under her pillow."

"I will never do that! Nonsense!". I could not say more. I was so enraged.

"You can take it as an experiment that will prove how foolish I am", he stated. "You have already tried everything else possible. You and your  wife can later laugh together at  my  stupidity."

Put that way, I was divided. Should I do this and betray my wife by even giving this idiocy any form of respect?

After much struggling with myself, I took the powder. 

After further battles with conscience, I placed the colourless powder under her pillow and slept off. I could not be bothered about thinking further about the folly I saw myself as engaged in though my heart was heavy with the sense of betrayal of my loved one.

Deep into the night my wife woke me up.

"What is it?", I responded. She did not answer. I came awake to her staring at me.

She asked, "Why?"

"About what?" I responded.

She did not respond but kept gazing at me.

Was the white of her eyes becoming red? Were my eyes playing tricks with me?

Before my horrified eyes, my beloved wife transformed, head, neck, body, into what the dibia had said she was. 

I became like a dead man. I could not move. I could not think. 

In languid, graceful motions, she slid off the bed and headed for the door.  It opened by itself. 

The paralysis left me and I gathered my dazed body and mind. I followed. 

She traveled a long distance, using streets deserted at that time of night.

Eventually, she reached the river and entered.

On reaching a rock at a point where I could still see her clearly, she coiled on the rock and looked at me a long time, in a deeply sorrowful manner, after which she slid into the river and was gone.

It took me years to recover from that terrible experience.

In my quiet moments, however, I recall my wife's exquisite presence, her skill at transforming our home into a wondrously welcoming and inspiring place, her mesmerizing scent, her magnificent tenderness and the life affirming joy of holding her and lying with her, my best friend whose deepest self was unknown to me but who loved me with all her soul.

I don't know if I needed to know what I learnt with the help of the dibia.



Story told to me by Tony Umez. Elaborated on by myself. Elaboration inspired by Abraham Madu's posting of the image above on a social media group.


Wednesday 4 July 2018

Encounters Beyond Time and Space : Tales of the Unknown


  
                                              The Visit of the Ducks 
                                                               by 
                                            Oluwatoyin Vincent Adepoju


In a dream, I ran into a friend and much older academic colleague from the University of Benin, Dr. Nwaboku, of the Department of Theater Arts, whom I had been told while I was in England, had passed away.
I ran to him in delight, "Its so wonderful to see you are alive, unlike what I was told!", trying to embrace him.
What did he do?
He started throwing stones at me.
Perplexed, I observed the grim determination with which he hurled those stones, doing everything to make sure I did not come near him.
I had to give up trying to reach him.
Yeas later, I keep wondering, why did he seem so hostile?
We had no problems known to me in our relationship.
Someone to whom I told the story concluded that Nwaboku was trying to prevent me from doing something unsafe for me by coming too close to him.
Cover image
“Visit of the Ducks” by Oluwatoyin Vincent Adepoju

Monday 27 September 2010

SIMULTANEOUS EXPERIENCE OF MULTIPLE DIMENSIONS

Have you ever had the sense of experiencing two dimensions of reality simultaneously? The sense of  existing in two different worlds at once?

I once had an experience along those lines in the flat I occupied in the first floor of my house in Benin city,Nigeria.The living room of the house was a place where,  at times,  I  sensed that invisible people were passing through the place,going about their own business,paying me no attention,as if we did not occupy the same space in terms of the possibility and relevance of interacting with each other.

This sense of multidimensionality emerged with distinctive  vividness on a particular day when I settled down in the living room with all windows closed,and all curtains drawn.I understood myself to be enjoying absolute privacy.During the course of that time,however,I experienced sharply the awareness  that even though I saw myself as having privacy,I might as well be out on the centre of the street for all the privacy I actually had.Recollecting the experience now,I visualise myself,in my living room,but at the same time in the centre of a busy street,in full view of  people passing as they went about their business.

Writing about this experience,even perhaps up to ten years after, brings a chill to  me in the face of the uncanny.It makes me want to look behind me but of course I will see nothing.

What could it mean?

Does it suggest that what existed as my living room  is actually the middle of a street in another dimension? Is that why, from time to time,  I would sense unseen people moving through the living room,  paying me no attention? Were they people in transit,passing through that street in the other dimension the living room also existed in?

Or could the experience suggest that my lifestyle was so well known to my neighbours that they would know what I would doing even if they could not see me?  After all,the range of a neighbour's activities are often known to other neighbours who have observed one's lifestyle for some time,so privacy does not equal ignorance of one's actions, theoretically speaking.

I remain puzzled.